21 Validation Quotes that Scream “Your Feelings Are Valid!”

How many times have you been suggested to dismiss your emotions and feelings? And they said it’s because it wouldn’t help to think and feel that way at that given moment.
Had you been told to shut up because you’re a little kid and probably didn’t know what you were talking about? Unless someone’s gonna get hurt? Because those adults’ problems are far more real and important? Because kids can only make everything more complicated by adding to the existing problem?
Repressed are your feelings, and this has now become your very own problem in your adult life.
Maybe what you need is simply someone who would let you know that your feelings are valid.
And maybe only by then you would be able to reconcile with your chaotic emotions and feelings and move forward.

Here are 21 validation quotes that might help you see that there is nothing wrong with having and expressing your emotions and feelings in a healthy way.
Hopefully by the end of this post, you’ll also realize that it’s only you that would be able to really validate your gracefully gnarly self.

Understand that Your Feelings are Valid. That’s the First Step.

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Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.

Danielle Bernock

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Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated.

Jill Bolte Taylor

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Our feelings, then, insist on recognition even though, in our accounts, we can dissemble endlessly. Although we can fake our experience through the way we describe it, and even if we can blind ourselves to its significance, we cannot fake the experience itself.

David Smail

Sometimes it can be hard for some of us to admit that yes, we need that validation! You may say (most of the time) that you don’t care about what other people – including your closest, favorite people – think. But deep down, their opinion and support do affect you and the way you feel, to various degrees depending on the circumstances. There is a high chance that these things matter to you more than you might have thought. Especially when they come from the people you look up to and the ones closest to you.

Our experiences and traumas change our perspectives subconsciously and often very deeply. And sometimes we bury those experiences so deeply, both consciously and subconsciously. Far too deep that we would have a hard time finding the root cause of our issues later in life.

Expressing your emotions and feelings to someone can be the most vulnerable thing you would ever do. Especially if you’re naturally having a hard time to do so in the first place. Or maybe you’re experiencing your debilitating “dark night of the soul” that it’s impossible for you to communicate your inner world at all, let alone effectively.

Never stop trying, though. There will be time for you to experience how it feels like to unleash your internal burden. And perhaps even how it feels like to be truly listened to. Your healing journey can then start from there.

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I’ve found that it’s of some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather.

Here are some obvious things about the weather:

It’s real.
You can’t change it by wishing it away.
If it’s dark and rainy, it really is dark and rainy, and you can’t alter it.
It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.

BUT
it will be sunny one day.
It isn’t under one’s control when the sun comes out, but come out it will.
One day.

It really is the same with one’s moods, I think. The wrong approach is to believe that they are illusions. Depression, anxiety, listlessness – these are all are real as the weather – AND EQUALLY NOT UNDER ONE’S CONTROL.
Not one’s fault.

BUT
They will pass: really they will.

In the same way that one really has to accept the weather, one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes, “Today is a really crap day,” is a perfectly realistic approach. It’s all about finding a kind of mental umbrella. “Hey-ho, it’s raining inside; it isn’t my fault and there’s nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow, and when it does I shall take full advantage.

Stephen Fry

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There are people who need our stories. These individuals are just hidden from our view. We need to put ourselves out there because maybe our stories will validate theirs.

Janine Myung Ja

Have you ever cried during a movie? Or when you’re reading something? Or when you’re listening to certain songs and music? You’re probably relating to whatever is going on there, realize it or not. Chance is, deep down you know that you had or have experienced the same or similar situation, but somewhere along the way you forgot about it. And that’s your unconscious memory comes knocking at your psyche, right when you’re faced with a similar scenario.

It’s really incredible and intriguing how some imageries, phrases and tunes could bring those long-buried memories back and touch us in the most spiritual ways. And that’s why art is really important: it’s truly capable of speaking without those rational limitations. And that’s also why there is no such thing as “too stupid” when it comes to sharing our experiences, knowledge, creativity and wisdom. Who knows, you might have saved someone’s soul today with your message today.

Know that you are allowed to worry, but you also need to believe that, just like the weather, this too shall pass. That way, your worries would not be able to paralyze you, because you know that they are all temporary.

It Feels Good to Be Listened to.

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I’ve talked to nearly 30,000, people on this show, and all 30,000, had one thing in common: They all wanted validation…I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire.

Oprah Winfrey

Our rational mind might have lead us into believing that we don’t need validation at all. Which is totally reasonable, since our capability of rationalizing things is here to help us survive in this world. Some of us might believe that validation is not needed at all because maybe various life experiences have made any kind of rejection unbearable. That’s only one reason I could think of. Probably there still are many other reasons to this – we could never possibly know and understand others’ thought processes. The bottom line is that whether we realize it or not, there is a yearning for validation inside each one of us. Either it’s an internal or external one. Just remember that there is a difference between healthy and unhealthy craving.

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Never confuse education and intelligence. There are far too many well-educated fools in this city, while others who are much wiser are neither noticed nor heeded.

Lisa E. Betz

Even with all the effort, there’s still a chance for us to not getting the acknowledgment we think we deserve. That’s life. And that’s why we would miss out all the happiness in the world if we don’t try and start to validate and appreciate our self, especially our internal progress. Because, eventually, we all need to understand that each one of us has got different values and beliefs. That way, we’ll understand that this non-acknowledgment we’ve been receiving is not at all a personal attack.

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I didn’t bare my feelings so you could explain why they were wrong. I wanted your support.

K.M. Szpara, Docile

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When we listen, we hear someone into existence.

Laurie Buchanan, PhD

Sometimes we need someone who would just listen. It’s hard enough to be vulnerable and share our feelings to someone – even to our closest, favorite person. Especially when we’re in that kind of (unstable, chaotic) state of mind.

Believe it or not, unsolicited advice can be destructive. This brings me back to those days when I had to experience being vulnerable to a wrong therapist at the wrong time. One right advice at the wrong time could slow your healing down, could you believe that?

You know, you might be able to feel the difference when you talk to someone who listens and someone who waits for their turn to speak. Funnily enough, your sensitivity towards such thing would probably (inevitably) intensifies during such hard time.

If you’re anything like me, in various social settings, you might prefer listening than talking. That’s why people often share their personal stories with you. And that’s because people have that basic desire to be listened.

Because when someone listens to you, they acknowledge, thus validate your existence. When someone listens to you, they help you believe in your significance with every fiber of your being.

Yes, we humans are so complicated, yet so simple.

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Finding communities that validate and share your anger creates powerful opportunities for collective social action.

Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger

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If God believes in you, then it doesn’t matter if anyone else does. And God has never not believed in you.

Craig D. Lounsbrough

Still, deep inside, our need to o listened is so undeniable. So much so that many of us retain that void inside of us without knowing what’s really wrong with us. To put simply, we need someone who listens without judgment. It could be someone in our family, our significant other, our bff, our canine or feline companion, or even a stranger, and so on. If you can’t find someone who fills that void, or if that’s not enough for you, you might find a relief in knowing there is someone you can’t see, who listens to you 24/7 and understands you. If you’ve got that kind of faith, be happy and grateful that you do, because many of us still don’t and maybe will not. At least, soon. This might be a lifetime search for some of us.

Eventually, You Are the Only Person that Could Give Yourself the Real Validation You’ve Been Craving All Along.

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You may occasionally be hurt by the sort of cavalier cruelty of commentary if you go into online forums, so there’s definitely a maturity about not seeking validation from everyone, every single time.

Guillermo del Toro

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Give it to yourself. Validate yourself. Affirm yourself. Yes, it’s nice to get it from others, but we must build within ourselves the ability to self-affirm.

Josh Hatchers

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One of the best things you can do for yourself is to validate yourself.

Angel Moreira

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Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school.

Albert Einstein

Healthy dose of external validation is great. Unfortunately, though, our current lifestyle has just made it nearly impossible for many of us to set that much-needed boundary. *Cough* social media *cough* – if you know what I mean. Realize it or not, depending your life too much on social media could wreak havoc on your psyche. And that’s why it’s always a good idea to limit your time on social media. Use it only when need you need it. For instance, go straight to your dm instead of scrolling down the feeds, post only once a week, and so on. The idea is to find your version of “social media diet” – the one that really works for you. If your life has been negatively affected by social media, check out this concise, useful article.

Of course, if you’re a public figure and/or if your work depends heavily on social media, you can’t just unplug from it. In that case, change your narrative. Try different perspectives, change or modify your relationship with social media. More importantly, take care of yourself mentally and physically; find ways to “recharge” your sanity.

And ultimately and most importantly, truly understand that it’s only you who know how far you’ve come. Only you know how much you’ve progressed and thrived, especially, internally. So, technically, it’s only you who would be allowed to validate or invalidate yourself. Now, which one would you choose?

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As Buddha points out, you should not rely on the opinions of others for validation of your internal progression.

Frederick Lenz

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Release old concepts and energies that keep you in self-punishment patterns. Release old stories and create from a place of love and self-validation. You are worth it!

Gautama Buddha

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Those who have not found their true wealth, which is the radiant joy of Being and the deep, unshakable peace that comes with it, are beggars, even if they have great material wealth. They are looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love, while they have a treasure within that not only includes all those things but is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.

Eckhart Tolle

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Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?

Rumi

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Look inside, without anyone else’s validation understand that you are valuable, talented, unique, and worthy.

Joe Sacco

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Freedom on the inside comes when validation from the outside doesn’t matter.

Richie Norton

So why would we excessively depend on how other people think about us? It will mean almost nothing if we don’t validate ourself. You could receive admiration from people all around the world and still feel empty, unhappy – just the opposite of content – and even restless if you don’t validate yourself.

Be proud of yourself for being brave enough to come this far. Applaud yourself for coming out of your shell. Encourage yourself to keep improving yourself and don’t forget to give yourself the love you deserve. Take care of yourself because you’ve done a whole lot of hard work to get where you are right now. And thank yourself for still willing to learn to be grateful every day, no matter how hard life has been for you.

So you see, there are SO many reasons to validate yourself. You could find bravery, endurance, the will to suffer and overcome all the hardships you’re faced with, the willingness to learn from your mistakes, to name just a few, all inside of you. If that’s not amazing, I don’t know what is.

Look inside you and free yourself from those external cravings, all of which will become external pressure sooner or later. It’s only you and you alone who know all your behind-the-scenes. So try your hardest not to allow those clueless outside noises to ruin your day and your life. It really is only you who could and should determine the quality of your life by firstly validating or not validating yourself.

Your feelings are valid, and it’s only you who could decide the outcome of this truth.

Love and best wishes,

Ella